It has never occurred to most people that something they do everyday, every night – continuously – can be a source of powerful stress relief.
I remember when my father’s friend was doing an awards presentation. For entertainment he said he was going to test how observant we were. He then told us NOT to look at our wrist watches and asked questions about the color, the type of watch is was, were the numbers Roman Numerals or regular English numbers and so on. NO ONE was able to answer all the questions.
Another, better known, story is about Christopher Columbus. When Columbus arrived in the new world and landed on his rowboat…the natives could not see his ship out at sea! Their familiarity with their environment and the ocean in particular was such that they couldn’t perceive the ship. An elder medicine man who had the flexibility of perception had to describe the ship to his fellow tribesmen before they could see it.
This same familiarity applies to how we perceive our breathing.
Our breathing is something that we have become so familiar with that we are almost completely unaware of its effects. Consider this, our breath bridges our conscious and unconscious i.e. unconsciously we are always breathing and at any time we can consciously focus on our breathing.
This is important to remember because all our emotional states are reflected in our breathing. If we are stressed our breathing tends to be shallow and focused in our upper lungs.
In fact jerky breathing itself will actually increase anxiety and stress. While when we are relaxed we tend to breathe fully into our belly. Practicing belly breathing (diaphragmatic breathing) can be extremely beneficial.
Simply knowing this can make a big difference like remembering to breath deeply if you are stressed to feel better. In other words, you had an unconscious shallow/jerky breathing pattern when you were stressed and by consciously taking control you can choose a breathing pattern that is better for your mind and body.(which would be diaphragmatic breathing)
In Yoga, breathing is considered to be so important that before any task a yogi first prepares his/her breathing. Proper breath control is considered the key to healthy living. In fact, learning to do proper diaphragmatic breathing has been shown to reduce stress and anxiety permanently.
Diaphragmatic Breathing
Sit or stand with your back straight, put your hand on your belly and breath in a slow and deep pattern. Don’t try to overfill the lungs or empty them – just breath softly – expanding your belly on the inhale and contracting on the exhale. Keep your attention focused on your breathing. You will find that your mind will tend to drift. That is normal. Simply return your attention to your breath when you notice you got distracted. Allow the relaxation from this breathing pattern to spread through your body and just enjoy yourself.
Practicing diaphragmatic breathing on a regular basis will alleviate stress and give you the ability to manage your stress better. All because of some deep and slow breathing.
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Breathing The Real Secret To Stress Relief
October 20th, 2010 at 9:33 pm
I go on youtube and look for relaxing voice audios, or rain falling when i’m stressed. it helps!!!
October 21st, 2010 at 6:51 am
The Write Way to Wellness
How Journaling Can Help You Connect to a Healthier Self
by Kathleen Adams
It’s no secret that writing down thoughts, feelings, frustrations, experiences, and life lessons in a notebook or journal (or on a computer screen) helps preserve memories for the future. But are you aware that writing in a journal can also have health benefits?
For 25 years there has been evidence-based research conducted on the correlation between writing down stressful life experiences and positive physiological changes. These benefits can include increased immune-system functioning, symptom reduction in disease severity, and a sense of release and closure from troubling events of the past. Here are 10 reasons why writing it down helps, each with a writing prompt to help you get started.
1.
Immediacy and availability. A journal is available at 3 am, during a migraine, in the doctor’s waiting room, when no one on your support list is at home. A journal’s immediacy lessens the need to rely on the kindness of strangers or the patience of health-care professionals, family, and friends.
Describe some of the times when you’ve desperately wished you had someone to talk to.
2.
Catharsis and insight. The important work of healing often brings with it a host of perfectly normal but difficult feelings—anger, fear, despair, frustration. Your journal absorbs these feelings without judgment, censure, or reprisal, and the insight gained from catharsis is an important step in healing.
What feeling is the most difficult for you to understand or express right now? Blast away—incomplete sentences or bullet-point lists are perfectly fine!
3.
Unconditional acceptance and silent friend. As one journal-keeper said, “My journal has become the archetypal friend. I have used and abused it more than any person would have tolerated. But it was always there waiting for me, totally accepting, totally present. I could ignore it, discount its value, and it never took offense. I never had to start over. I never had to apologize. What a blessed gift!”
Write a letter to someone who has offered unconditional acceptance to you—no matter how long ago it was.
4.
Observe health-enhancing cycles and patterns. Our habitual behaviors either promote wellness or contribute to discomfort and disease. Observing behaviors through charts, logs, or reflections offers valuable data that can be used to maximize wellness.
Which of your habits promote wellness? Which contribute to discomfort or disease? Divide a page in two vertically and make two lists.
5.
Get to know different parts of yourself. Learning to listen to and communicate with your bodymind, Inner Healer, dream symbols, and other energetic aspects of the Self is one of the great gifts of journalkeeping.
Close your eyes and imagine your healthier Self. What does s/he look like? Feel like? What are his/her habits? Jot notes, or write a character sketch or profile.
6.
Strengthen intuition and inner guidance. It is simply amazing how much wisdom we hold within us, and how reliably we can access it just by turning inward, asking sincere questions, listening, and writing down what we hear.
Experiment with this by posing an open-ended question to your intuition, then sitting in silence until you feel an inner prompting. Then write down a response.
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Expand creativity. Once initial discomfort and resistance to writing is overcome, you may find that writing can be a reassuring, nurturing, safe, creative outlet for thoughts and feelings. This increased flexibility with the creative process often leads to spontaneous brainstorming of options and choices for wellness.
After you’ve completed the intuition exercise in example six, brainstorm a list of 10 creative ways you could advance the answer you received. Don’t hold back! Anticipate surprises.
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Self-empowerment and self-esteem. Journal writing encourages self-reliance and self-responsibility. The healing journey is literally mapped out, one page at a time, and the accumulation of life experience and wisdom adds up to the recognition that we are, in fact, the predominant creative forces in our own lives.
How do you empower yourself in your healing journey?
9.
Release past hurts and judgments. Holding on to the past is a sure-fire energy drain. Resentment, guilt, blame, and bottled-up grief block access to the Healer Within. The safe container of your journal receives it all, filling up and becoming more in the process, and prepares you to release old wounds to extend forgiveness to yourself and others.
What past hurts and judgments would you like to release and forgive? Write a rant—let yourself blow off steam and be socially inappropriate.
10.
Witness to healing. The journal provides an ongoing record of the healing journey. Months and years down the road you can look back at past volumes to assure yourself that you are making progress, that you are able to master wellness principles, and that you can heal.
Date your page one year from today and let your healthier Self write you a letter.
November 8th, 2010 at 7:12 pm
Hi, Thanks for sharing on such an important subject that can help so many people out there.
Being involved in customer service for the last ten years, I figured out that there some space or lets say a split of a second between the action happening outside and the reaction generated from inside your mind. That space/time in between the two is key to determine how you will react to a specific event.
The more you practice being aware of that space/time factor, the better you get at preventing the situation from controlling you and your feeling.
Brian
November 20th, 2010 at 10:03 am
Thanks for a very useful post! I tried diaphragmatic breathing and found it helped me immensely with stressed and anxious feelings. Visualising a tranquil setting at the same time can help a lot too.
Sally
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February 13th, 2011 at 4:16 pm
That is so true. Breathing is the primary factor in our lives. We do it 24/7 and are mostly unaware of it. Meditation on it certainly helps bring rhythm and clarity to our lives. Brian, that’s a GREAT way to describe “space”. There is magic in the space between our thoughts.
March 4th, 2011 at 8:03 am
Absolutely true. When you practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, regularly, these activities will lead to a reduction in your everyday stress levels and a boost in your feelings of joy and serenity.
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April 12th, 2011 at 2:19 am
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April 17th, 2011 at 4:59 pm
Deep breathing is one of my favorite techniques for relieving stress quickly. It just quiets the mind down and I can think clearly so I can resolve the situation at hand. Thanks for sharing.
June 5th, 2011 at 4:36 pm
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October 15th, 2011 at 8:11 am
Sara Beakerman’s post is spot on. I am in conclusion that managing your breathing is essential to stressing or not or at least influence how or how much you stress. Controlled breathing can make a significant difference, especially if not used and it leads to increased anxiety and anger.
It is necessary to identify and know your stressors, triggers and how you stress and putting it down is a necessary way to go. How can you deal with it if you do not know what it is. A Stress diary or stress journal is an effective way to do this. I have found that over at http://www.stressdiaries.com – they have devised a ready designed self-help tool as a range of stress diaries to help manage stress. It helps as it will tell you exactly where you stress, when you stress, what you stress about, who you stress with, why you stress and how you stress – and it offers solutions to this. it works for me…BTW love your site
October 20th, 2011 at 8:33 pm
This is new to me.., I thought that’s just the default way I do when every time I “hey, all you guys just stop, I want to take my time for a moment”. I didn’t know that would be the start of my stress relief.
Also for me, work hard and party hard. Just balance how hard your doing these things. If your work involves looking at the computer all day then you should go to different places as much as possible during weekends. These will also help your brain think that your not doing a boring hard job everyday. As for the party, I’m one of those who shout with the music while dancing, great stress relief
November 9th, 2011 at 12:37 am
I am also an advocate of deep breathing when it comes to reducing or dealing with stress. With oxygen being infused in the cells, our body can perform better. Combine this with a healthy diet, regular exercise and a happy and relaxed disposition and life becomes easier.
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